When evening descends, bring your children indoors for the devils scatter out at this hour. Then after the passing of an hour (i.e. the first hour) of the night, (you may) let them (the children) go. Close your doors while mentioning the Name of Allah, for the devil may not open a closed door. Fasten your waterskins mentioning the Name of Allah. Cover your eating vessels mentioning the Name of Alah even if you just put something over it, and estinguish your lamps.
In a hadith, it was once asked from Rasulullah (SAW): “How will I know that I have become a Mumin?” Rasulullah (SAW) answered: “When your heart feels satisfied because of any of your good act and mourns about any of your wrong doing, then know, you have become a true Muslim, i.e., Mumin.”
To us both of the terms look alike, but keep in mind they aren’t, for you shall also see the difference from the Quran. A Muslim is a person who embraces Islam by saying the Kalima Tayyiba and with a keen belief that Allah is one; no God except Him and Muhammad (S.A.W) is His last Apostle. Whereas a person becomes Mumin when this knowledge penetrates deep into his mind, heart and soul. Allah Almighty has described 13 main qualities of such dignified persons in Surah Al- Furqan they are as under:
- Believer of Allah: Such persons believe in Allah Almighty and declare no assistant with Him whatsoever. We have seen many people saying and believing in Allah fully yet whenever they are in trouble they seek help from others. This is in fact Shirk that has been entailed in the last sermon of Rasulullah (SAW). A Mumin turns only to Allah for help and demands only from Him. I shall quote here words of Hadith Qudsi, “There is no such thing that any person can give you unless Allah imputes and no such thing any person can take away from you unless Allah wills. No greatness of any person, whatsoever, is greater than that of Allah and none can save you from evil doings except His might”.
- Humble: Another quality of such persons is that they are humble, i.e., free from any sort of pride and arrogance. They walk very humbly, talk humbly hence humbleness is a part of their life. Pride is something that Allah has forbidden upon humanity, it’s in a Hadith Qudsi, “Pride is my cloak, and whosoever tries to steal it from me, I shall be at war with him”.
- Saying Salaam: Here salaam not only represents saying salaam to each other in normal course of life but whenever such persons face a situation where an ignorant is trying to have a dispute with them over any matter, they just say salaam and move forward. Therefore, it clearly shows that such persons don’t indulge themselves in futile discussions.
- Praying after mid night: though this is not compulsory for every person but whosoever does it with beat intentions may have reward for it, Insha’Allah. The Mu’mineen has the quality that they perform prayers after midnight, i.e., Tahajjad. Allah says in Surah al Furqan: “The pious followers of Allah are those who get up in the middle of the night and pray, when all the world is sound asleep.”
- Chary towards expenses: Such persons are not extravagant rather chary. For an extravagant person, it is said, “An extravagant is brother of Shaytaan”. Some people believe that Allah gives money to spend hence they keep on spending it uselessly. Yes that is true that Allah gives money to a person to spend on himself and his family but not extravagantly, rather a person should be cautious in doing so, he should take care of the money given to him, he should neither be a closefisted person nor an extravagant but a careful person.
- Avoid shirk: Followers of Allah Almighty abstain from Shirk. That is the subject matter of Islam and if one can’t follow that, he shall not be called a Muslim. Now normally there are two major kinds of Shirk, Shirk-e- jali and Shirk-e-khafi. Shirk-e-jali means directly associate a partner with Allah and Shirk-e-khafi means to involve oneself in such acts so as to please other persons. Note that a wife can do anything to please her husband but for other persons doing something to get their attention also comes in the category of Shirk-e-khafi.
- Don’t kill anyone unjustly: Muslims are worldwide seen as terrorist and Islam a terrorist religion, well here is an answer for that. Allah Almighty says in Al-Quran that the followers of Allah don’t kill anyone unjustly because they know that whosoever does that (i.e., kills another person unjustly or a Mumin unjustly), he abodes in hell where he shall dwell forever.
- Avoid adultery: Allah explains another unique quality of His followers that they avoid adultery and save themselves from it because they know that it is such a ribald sin that has no chances of apologies only and only punishment. For an apology it is necessary that the loss be fulfilled and in adultery loss can never be fulfilled.
- Avoid lying and Fraud: Followers of Allah avoid lying and fraud and don’t go near the evil or places where evil dwells. Once a person came to Rasulullah (SAW) and asked Him some questions: Person: “Is it possible for a Muslim to drink?”
Rasulullah (SAW): “Yes, it is possible.”
Person: “Is it possible for a Muslim to steal?”
Rasulullah (SAW): “Yes, it is.”
Person: “Is it possible for a Muslim to lie?”
Rasulullah (SAW): “Never, a Muslim may be weak of Imaan and may indulge himself in other such acts but he can never lie to anyone.”
- Noble and generous: Followers of Allah are very noble and generous that if they ever pass by evil gatherings, they just seek their Lord’s refuge and move on. But they never feel hatred for the ones who are in such gatherings nor do they degrade such persons in fact they pray for them to be shown guidance by Allah.
- Use their senses: Followers of Allah have the quality that whenever they are told orders of Allah, they listen to it keenly and then follow it. They don’t indulge themselves in vague questioning neither do they ask for proof that world is going such like why should we be different. Because they know that Muslims are given just a small portion of knowledge and that can be compared to give answers for everything.
- Worry about family: The followers of Allah always worry about their families. They not only themselves follow the straight path but also make their children follow the straight path and often pray for them to be pious as well.
- Fear Allah and worry about Hereafter: The followers of Allah fear from Allah every time and keep worrying about hereafter. They keep themselves indulge in such acts that are helpful for their hereafter. They often pray from their Lord, “Oh Allah, bless us in this worldly life as well as save us from the hell fire in Hereafter.” Aameen
These are some of the basic qualities that Quran has listed in Surah Al Furqan.
“May Allah Almighty make us all follow such straight path and make each of us have these qualities Aameen. “
Salaf women are the best role models for our mothers, sisters, daughters, wives. From the Salaf women, the best of women are those granted the glad tidings of entering theJannah like Umm Khadeejah, Faatimah, Maryam and ‘Aasiyah (may Allaah be pleased with them all).
The point that will be focused is in the form of an individual question, ‘are our women aware of their rightly guided role models’ ? Not just limited to the hijaab which is becoming obsolete as well, but in their over all character ? How do our women react to the incidents when a beloved person of our family dies ? When our women meet each other, what is the topic of their chit chat about ? how do our women behave when they are walking in the market, educational institutions and in their families ?
Once they were women and once we were men!
There is a world of difference between the Arabic words Nisaa’ (woman) and Unthaa (female) – and Rajul (man) and Dakar (male). Not every male who grows his beard becomes a man, and not every female who delivers a baby becomes a woman, but manhood and womanhood can only be achieved when your relationship with your Creator is extremely powerful and your relationship with His creation is extremely merciful with justice.
To have a more view over it, Watch this, Manhood and Womanhood in Islaam (2011) by Yassir Fazaga
Most of the Muslim men don’t want women to get education because then they will be exposed to their rights. But women need to return to the behaviour of the Salaf women who had this thirst of acquiring the knowledge of Islaam as it is an obligation upon them. They need to organize halaqas and let women teach women and let them work in a group with peace. Women today are going away from Islaam and it is due to the lack of the knowledge of their rights in Islaam. They search their rights in fashion, they think freedom lies in becomes a beauty queen and free women is the one who can strip her clothes whenever and wherever she wants. Men are to be blamed for this because they are the one who never allowed women to enter into Islaam in the way Salaf women were in it. They were happy even in poverty and tough times. They glorified Allaah when good and bad things happened. Next generation is in the hands of women, if they are ignorant about Islaam and the knowledge of this world, then what will happen to the next generation? Media is brainwashing the daughters of Ummah, if we remain as we are, there will be extreme imbalance and it will be too late for us to turn back. The flow of our intellect is towards media, media in their hands, flow of media is towards hell.
We need to remind ourselves this sign of Allaah, “Allaah does not change the condition of people until they change what is in themselves.”
The other day my friend told me, ‘Thank god I’m not a Muslim, I can’t wear all this niqab.’
How am I supposed to react to this? Pity her? It only made me think how ignorant she is. She couldn’t see my reaction as I was wearing a niqab. Why do people think that every Muslim who follows Islam is being forced to do so? Wearing a niqab doesn’t discomfort me. I wear a niqab because I love wearing it and it makes me feel so close to Allah and protected from dirty attention. I wouldn’t like to expose myself to every random man and attract unwanted attention. to me thats so disgusting! It’s not even obligatory in Islam to wear a niqab! What about the women in France who are fighting for their rights to wear a niqab in France? Are all of them being forced to fight? I am glad Islam has the concept of hijab. It is so comforting to men and women with knowledge. The amazing things you achieve by doing hijab and niqab are
- No one can judge your financial status.
- Your jewelry isn’t exposed, so i guess you don’t get robbed on the street :-).
- Your skin is protected from from everything free of cost.
- Your hair stays healthy.
- No one gets to admire your body’s figure.
- Your partner is very secure about you.
- You gain respect.
- The evil can’t spot you.
- You are not the reason for ruining some man’s relationship with his partner.
- You don’t get the sin of attracting a man’s attention in a dirty way.
- You don’t cause the feeling of jealousy in another woman’s heart.
- You don’t let other women feel insecure about their external beauty.
- You get to inspire other men and women to follow Islam. So you get their reward as well :-).
- You don’t spend unnecessary money on shopping expensive clothes or accessories or make up.
- No man in his right mind would approach you to flirt with you.
- You don’t have to spend all that time getting ready.
- It is a sunnah as the wives of Prophet Muhammad (saw) used to do this.
- Almost forgot! Your face gains Noor. You get a clear face and beautiful skin ;-), Mashallah.
- And the best part, everybody knows you’re a believer.
When you do it for the love of Allah not even the blaring sun would be a problem. Unless and until you understand why hijab is necessary, no one will like it. Hope this helped.
Allah knows best.
Why She Won’t Wear Hijab!
A Discussion by A.Q. Alidost
A conversation for Muslim sisters:
“I’m so tired.”
“Tired of what?”
“Of all these people judging me.”
“Who judged you?”
“Like that woman, every time I sit with her, she tells me to wear hijab.”
“Oh, hijab and music! The mother of all topics!”
“Yeah! I listen to music without hijab… haha!”
“Maybe she was just giving you advice.”
“I don’t need her advice. I know my religion. Can’t she mind her own business?”
“Maybe you misunderstood. She was just being nice.”
“Keeping out of my business, that would be nice…”
“But it’s her duty to encourage you do to good.”
“Trust me. That was no encouragement. And what do you mean ‘good’?”
“Well, wearing hijab, that would be a good thing to do.”
“It’s in the Quran, isn’t it?”
“Yes. She did quote me something.”
“She said Surah Nur, and other places of the Quran.”
“Yes, but it’s not a big sin anyway. Helping people and praying is more important.”
“True. But big things start with small things.”
“That’s a good point, but what you wear is not important. What’s important is to have a good healthy heart.”
“What you wear is not important?”
“That’s what I said.”
“Then why do you spend an hour every morning fixing up?”
“What do you mean?”
“You spend money on cosmetics, not to mention all the time you spend on fixing your hair and low-carb dieting.”
“So, your appearance IS important.”
“No. I said wearing hijab is not an important thing in religion.”
“If it’s not an important thing in religion, why is it mentioned in the Noble Quran?”
“You know I can’t follow all that’s in Quran.”
“You mean God tells you something to do, you disobey and then it’s OK?”
“Yes. God is forgiving.”
“God is forgiving to those who repent and do not repeat their mistakes.”
“Says the same book that tells you to cover.”
“But I don’t like hijab, it limits my freedom.”
“But the lotions, lipsticks, mascara and other cosmetics set you free?!
What’s your definition of freedom anyway?”
“Freedom is in doing whatever you like to do.”
“No. Freedom is in doing the right thing, not in doing whatever we wish to do.”
“Look! I’ve seen so many people who don’t wear hijab and are nice people, and so many who wear hijab and are bad people.”
“So what? There are people who are nice to you but are alcoholic. Should we all be alcoholics? You made a stupid point.”
“I don’t want to be an extremist or a fanatic. I’m OK the way I am without hijab.”
“Then you are a secular fanatic. An extremist in disobeying God.”
“You don’t get it, if I wear hijab, who would marry me?!”
“So all these people with hijab never get married?!”
“Okay! What if I get married and my husband doesn’t like it? And wants me to remove it?”
“What if your husband wants you to go out with him on a bank robbery?!”
“That’s irrelevant, bank robbery is a crime.”
“Disobeying your Creator is not a crime?”
“But then who would hire me?”
“A company that respects people for who they are.”
“Not after 9-11”
Yes. After 9-11. Don’t you know about Hanan who just got into med school?
And the other one, what was her name, the girl who always wore a white hijab… ummm…”
“Yes. Yasmin. She just finished her MBA and is now interning for GE.”
“Why do you reduce religion to a piece of cloth anyway?”
“Why do you reduce womanhood to high heals and lipstick colors?”
“You didn’t answer my question.”
“In fact, I did. Hijab is not just a piece of cloth. It is obeying God in a difficult environment. It is courage, faith in action, and true womanhood.
But your short sleeves, tight pants…”
“That’s called ‘fashion’, you live in a cave or something? First of all, hijab was founded by men who wanted to control women.”
“Really? I did not know men could control women by hijab.”
“Yes. That’s what it is.”
“What about the women who fight their husbands to wear hijab? And women in France who are forced to remove their hijab by men? What do you say about that?”
“Well, that’s different.”
“What difference? The woman who asked you to wear hijab… she was a woman, right?”
“But fashions that are designed and promoted by male-dominated corporations, set you free? Men have no control on exposing women and using them as a commodity?! Give me a break!”
“Wait, let me finish, I was saying…”
“Saying what? You think that men control women by hijab?”
“By telling women how and what to wear, dummy!”
“Doesn’t TV, magazines and movies tell you what to wear, and how to be ‘attractive’?”
“Of course, it’s fashion.”
“Isn’t that control? Pressuring you to wear what they want you to wear?”
“Not just controlling you, but also controlling the market.”
“What do you mean?”
“I mean, you are told to look skinny and anorexic like that woman on the cover of the magazine, by men who design those magazines and sell those products.”
“I don’t get it. What does hijab have to do with products.”
“It has everything to do with that. Don’t you see? Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men… and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks.”
“Like I don’t have to buy hijab? Isn’t hijab a product?”
“Yes, it is. It is a product that sets you free from male-dominated consumerism.”
“Stop lecturing me! I WILL NOT WEAR HIJAB!
It is awkward, outdated, and totally not suitable for this society… Moreover, I am only 20 and too young to wear hijab!”
“Fine. Say that to your Lord, when you face Him on Judgment Day.”
“Shut up and I don’t want to hear more about hijab niqab schmijab Punjab!”
She stared at the mirror, tired of arguing with herself all this time.
Successful enough, she managed to shut the voices in her head, with her own opinions triumphant in victory on the matter, and a final modern decision accepted by the society – but rejected by the Faith:
“Yes!” – to curls on the hair – “No!” – to hijab!
“And he (/she) is indeed a failure who corrupts it [the soul]!” [Noble Quran 91:10]
“Nay! You prefer the life of this world; While the hereafter is better and more lasting.” [Noble Quran 87:16-17]
“You are the best community (Ummah) raised up for (the benefit of) humanity; enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong and believing in Allah.” [Noble Quran 3:110]
Hijab is a threat to consumerism, women who spend billions of dollars to look skinny and live by standards of fashion designed by men… and then here is Islam, saying trash all that nonsense and focus on your soul, not on your looks, and do not worry what men think of your looks.