Y not GO to THE movies? — November 23, 2011

Y not GO to THE movies?

Going to the movies, another issue. My very close believing friend called me out for a movie today and I was thinking of reasons to avoid it. Then I thought I might as well say it. I texted back saying I can’t as it’s not permissible in Islam. She asked me back if it’s mentioned in the Qur’an that we shouldn’t go for movies. I said yes, it’s mentioned that sitting in a closed room with non mahram men without your mahram is not allowed. I also said its plain waste of money. She encouraged me but also said that she hopes I don’t become a hypocrite:-(. Inshallah I hope so too. I ended up giving money to a friend who was broke and was skipping lunch:-). Alhumduleallah. You have better ways of spending money that Allah has given you. When you favour people, Allah favours you more than you.

Watching television is not bad, what matters is what you watch. There are a lot of useful and amazing as well as entertaining programs on television that do not go against the teachings of Islam. The things that have to be avoided are,

  • Glamorous scenes
  • Obscene scenes
  • Scenes involving praise of other deities or gods other than Allah

I guess that’s it. How hard is it to stay away from these? Either close your eyes or look elsewhere or get a clean version. I know it’s not that simple. But where there’s a will there’s a way. Allah will help us as He knows our intension. People may argue that it doesn’t mean that we believe it or feel like doing what’s in the movies just because we watch. That’s not the point. The point is that you obey what is mentioned in the Qur’an without any scientific proof or argument. There are a lot of Islamic channels, programs and lecture on television. Trust me they’re not boring. If you’re bored at home and you’re watching television, the best thing you can do is go to a Madrasah.  You can’t imagine the feeling it gives. Oh yeah men could go to the Masjid :-).

Allah knows best 🙂 !

Why am I on Facebook? — November 6, 2011
Alone with a Non-Mahram — July 25, 2011

Alone with a Non-Mahram

The Prophet (SAW) , said: “No person should be alone with a woman except with a Mahram.” [Muslim]

They are more likely to be tempted into impermissible looking and touching with the possibility that they might arrange a date with each other and other such evils. Undeniably, the devil circulates like blood in the human being; therefore, it is completely forbidden for a Muslim man to be alone with a non-Mahram woman.

Moreover, when a man is with a woman alone in private, the devil uses the situation to lure them into committing sins. The Prophet , said: “Never is a man alone with a woman except that the devil is their third [party]. “ [Ahmad]

Allah Knows best.

Women Travellers —

Women Travellers

The Prophet (SAW) said, “A woman should not travel* except with a Mahram, and no man may visit her except in the presence of a Mahram.” A man got up and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! I intend to go to such and such an army and my wife wants to perform Hajj.” The Prophet (SAW) said (to him), “Go along with her (to Hajj).”

 Hadith – Bukhari 3:85, Ibn ‘Abbas

*this is referring to lengthy travel; for instance, a trip that exceeds two days time, etc.

It is forbidden for a woman to travel without being accompanied by a Mahram. The Prophet (SAW) said: “No woman who believes in Allah and the Last Day should travel a distance of a day and night journey unless her Mahram is with her” . [Imams Bukhari and Muslim narrated from Abu Hurairah ]

A woman needs one who helps her at the time of boarding and getting down in a journey. And only a husband or a Mahram can do it perfectly.

However, if there is necessity, it is permissible provided that she travel with a righteous group of women; there should be safety for her and she herself should be a righteous woman.

It is unlawful for the woman to travel without Mahram. There are sound Ahadith proving that. The majority of scholars believe that there is no difference in this rule between a long journey and a short one. This is because, the traveling of the woman with no Mahram can result in much temptation even if it is not long. The only exception here is when there is a dire necessity for the woman to travel without a Mahram. Allah Says (interpretation of meaning): {…and has imposed no difficulties on you in religion;…}[22:78]. Allah also Says (interpretation of meaning): {…while He has explained to you in detail what is forbidden to you, except under compulsion of necessity?…}[6:119]. The criteria for the necessity that allows the woman to travel without Mahram (if unavailable) is fearing for her life, her honour, her property or her mind. The woman is also allowed to travel without being accompanied if confronted to harsh conditions that she cannot normally overcome. Allah knows best.

Shaking Hands with Non-Mahram —

Shaking Hands with Non-Mahram

The traditions of certain societies have prevailed over Allah’s Shari’ah concerning this matter. Their wrong habits have overcome the rule of religion so much so that when one presents the rule of the Shari’ah to them, he is accused of being backward.

Shaking the hand of one’s female cousins, or one’s uncles’ wives has become as easy as falling off a log in our societies, but if people considered seriously the dangers of this matter in the Shari’ah, they would not do it. The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said,

“It is better for one of you to be pierced by an iron needle in the head than to touch the hand of a woman that is not allowed to him.” (Tabarani)

This sin is considered a fornication of the hand, as the Prophet (SAW),  said, “The eyes fornicate, and the hands fornicate, and the feet fornicate, and the intimate parts fornicate.” (Ahmad)

Is there a person purer than Muhammad (SAW)? And in spite of that he said, “I do not shake women’s hands.” (Ahmad) He also said, “I do not touch women’s hands.” (Tabarani)

Aisha, radhiallahu anha, said, “No by Allah, the Prophet’s hand never touched a woman’s hand, he used to accept their pledge of allegiance by [hearing their] words only.” (Muslim)

Men who threaten to divorce their pious wives if they refuse to shake their brothers’ hands should fear Allah. It should also be known that wearing a glove or wrapping the hand with a cloth while shaking hands is not allowed either.

Mahram & Hijab for Women —

Mahram & Hijab for Women

24:31] “And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband’s fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss”.

In this verse not only those who are MAHRAM for a Muslim women are mentioned but also ALLAH ALMIGHTY’S CLEAR CUT ORDERS about lowering their gaze is given.

ALLAH ALMIGHTY ALSO COMMANDS Muslim women to veil themselves before going out or coming in front of any Non-Mahram, so that they not be molested and teased . Its really ALLAH ALMIGHTY’S gift for all the Muslim women but we, unluckily, ponder over it not.

33:59] “O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful”.

Mahram for Men —

Mahram for Men

Any woman with whom a man has a relationship (of blood or fosterage) that precludes marriage, is considered a Mahram to him.

“And marry not women whom your fathers married, except what has already passed; indeed it was shameful and most hateful, and an evil way. Forbidden to you (for marriage) are: your mothers, your daughters, your sisters, your father’s sisters, your mother’s sisters, your brother’s daughters, your sister’s daughters, your foster mother who gave you suck, your foster milk suckling sisters, your wives’ mothers, your step-daughters under your guardianship, born of your wives to whom you have go in – but there is no sin on you if you have not gone in them (to marry their daughters), – the wives of your sons who (spring) from your own loins, and two sisters in wedlock at the same time, except for what has already passed; verily, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (An-Nisa 4:22-23)

Mahram women include his mother, grandmother, daughter, granddaughter, sister, aunt, grandaunt, niece, grandniece, his father’s wife, his wife’s daughter, his mother-in-law, his foster mother (the one who nursed him), foster sisters, and any foster relatives that are similar to the above mentioned blood relatives as the Prophet (SAW) said, “What is forbidden by reason of kindship is forbidden by reason of suckling.” (Al-Bukhari)

All the man’s female relatives mentioned in these two verses are considered his Maharim, because it is unlawful (haram) for him to marry them, except the wife’s sister mentioned last, who is not a Mahram because he can marry her if he divorces her sister, or if she dies. Reciprocally, if a woman is a Mahram to a man, such as her brother, her father, her uncle, etc. then he is a Mahram to her. All other relatives are considered non-Maharim and they fall under the category of strangers to her, except one’s wife or husband who is also called Mahram.